"Should have" is disempowering. It implies we are wrong and basically, it condemns.
Condemnation (whether it be from others or ourselves) has an attachment of "punishment". This is where sabotage is given freedom to live. Imagine getting to the 99th yard and you find yourself noticing you "should have" done something differently? Likely, you will hit the brakes and spend time on what you "should have" done differently and start to beat yourself up. Say goodbye to the goal at the 100th yard finish line. Boom! You just sabotaged yourself.
Sadly, "should have" is also about looking to the past. Keeping our attention in the past doesn't allow us to look to the future of "what's next". Instead, it keeps us anchored to being stuck.
"I should" is shrouded in guilt. Also disempowering.
Imagine my stance when I say to myself "I should go out for a run". Geez... that sure sounds like an exciting run ahead of me! (That was sarcasm).
If I "should" do something then I am coming from compliance. I feel like "I have to" do it as apposed to "I choose to" do it. We are all at choice about everything. Yes, everything.
Being at choice means to be empowered and in control of our destiny. When we choose then, we are responsible for the outcome. I cannot blame anyone else. AND, being responsible is not about blaming myself if it doesn't turn out the way I thought it would. Instead it's about looking forward and focused on solution.
That's where we get to look at the circumstances and see "what worked" and "what didn't" and look at "what's next". All from the posture of "I am committed to the outcome." When we are committed and not compliant then our reaction to the circumstances is one of empowerment.
Being a Purpose Driven Entrepreneur is about being committed to our mission. When we are committed then we are empowered to choose on a daily basis. No longer do you "have to" do anything. Nor "should" you do anything.
"I am committed to inspiring, empowering and educating women on being architects of change in the world, using enterprise as a vehicle - all according to their Purpose, Passion and Strengths."
"Find out what you love to do, discover what it is you do best & be an agent of change in the world. Now that's a life worth living!" Melissa Haupt.
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